It’s been said that the quality of your questions determines the quality of your life.

 

In today’s newsletter I will share with you four questions that Kaci and I ask each other over the dinner table. These four questions help us connect, reflect on our day and as a by-product also help us build a great relationship with money.

 

As Clifford gets older I look forward to having these conversations with him (and our future children) at the dinner table. 

 

“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.” – Zig Ziglar 

 

When we focus on what we’re grateful for we feel no lack. This is why gratitude is the ultimate state to operate from. We feel as though we are enough and we have enough. And this is why gratitude is one of the five core habits our members build in the 21 Day ‘Fix your Finances’ Challenge which kicked off on Wednesday.  

 

When Kaci and I ask each other this question we share three things from our day we are grateful for.  

 

 

“You’re either green and growing or ripe and rotting.” – Joe Pane

 

One of the prerequisites to living a long and fulfilling life is to be a life-long learner. 

 

Curiosity keeps you feeling young and child-like. 

 

Sometimes this can feel like the hardest of the four questions to answer. But if we look hard enough there is always something we’ve learned from our day.

 

It could be:

 

     – A new word we learned

 

 

     – A new skill we’re developing

     – Something we learned about someone’s life

 

 

“Try not to become a person of success, but rather try to become a person of value.” – Albert Einstein 

 

If you’re adding value to other people’s lives each day then you will live a rich and rewarding life, and success will find you. 

 

I’ve previously written about ‘Three Mindset Shifts you must make to Grow your Income’ and ‘adding value’ was one of them. However, adding value isn’t just about making more money. Adding value is about being a helpful and thoughtful human being, putting a smile on other people’s faces and feeling the richness inside of you when you’re in service.  

 

You can add value to other people’s lives in so many ways.

 

You can:

 

     – Help a customer solve a problem

     – Do something thoughtful for your partner

     – Smile at the waiter serving you and ask them how they’re day is going

 

 

If you’ve ever worked with me 1:1 then you would know that I always finish my coaching sessions by asking you the question “what would you like to acknowledge yourself for today or in the lead up to this session?”.

 

I ask this to help you bring awareness to the small wins you’re having.

 

What I’ve found is that most people struggle to answer this question when they’re asked it for the first time. They can have a hard time recognising the good they’re doing and the small wins they’re having. And it can feel uncomfortable to pump up our own tires. 

 

When Kaci and I ask each other this question, we acknowledge something we’ve done in our day that we’re proud of and we also acknowledge the other person for something they’ve done or a character attribute we admire in them.

 

It feels nice to recognise ourselves, recognise our partners and to be recognised by our partners. 

 

This question can be a game-changer for your relationship. 

 

 

If you want to build a deeper connection with your partner and as a by-product build a better relationship with your money then give these four questions a go.

 

What other questions would you add to the list?